We are elated to present a blog post from our REAL Women Director of Facilitators and Lead Facilitator of REAL Women Prince George’s County Sister Circle, Shavon Carter. She is also known as the YOU
relationship coach because she helps people develop a better relationship with themselves.
In this post, Shavon gives us a very personal glimpse into her very inspiring journey into freedom!
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“It wasn’t your fault”
Those were the words my therapist spoke to me as I sat on the couch across from him one session. Visibly imprisoned by episodes from my past, he could sense that I needed to be set free. When he first spoke the words, they didn’t get very far. In fact, they ricocheted off my heart like a bullet returning to a smoking gun. He didn’t have the keys to set me free. I had to do it. Yet, my beliefs of being tarnished, not good enough, and the one to blame for the choices that others made, created
So instead of immediately throwing those words away, I stored them in my back pocket to try on for another day. And that day came a week later. While sitting still in quiet meditation, the words crept in from my pocket to my heart, seeking to find its rightful place. This time the words settled deep into my soul and wrapped me like a warm blanket on a cold winter day.
“It wasn’t your fault”
This time I believed it. I admitted the part I played of not practicing self-care and solely relying on “him” to meet my emotional needs. I embraced the belief that I am not to blame for the decisions “he” chose to make. I am not responsible for what “he” chose to do with the power I freely gave “him” over me. And with that understanding, it was time to take my power back.
I used my keys of power to release myself from custody after 5 years of imprisonment. I refused to keep serving time as a prisoner of my painful past that robbed me of precious present moments. I resolved that there was no need to keep looking back at a past that I had no control over. It was time to look forward and relish in the beauty of today and the possibilities of tomorrow.
And now with a new lease on life, I am FREE. I am free to FORGIVE. I am free to LIVE. And most of all, I am free to LOVE.